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Domestic abuse and LGBT relationships

Abusive partners in LGBT relationships use all the same tactics to gain power and control as abusive partners in heterosexual relationships, these can include physical, sexual or emotional abuse, financial control, isolation and more.

But in LGBT relationships an abuser can use their partner’s sexuality against them.

Specific behaviours can include:

Loudhailer with rainbow

Threats to ‘out’ i.e. to disclose someone’s sexual orientation or gender identify without their consent, for example to their employer, family or community.

Speech bubble saying, Fake

Criticise someone for not being a ‘real lesbian or bisexual woman’, for example if they have only recently come out or had a previous heterosexual relationship.

Shrugging woman with rainbow speech bubble

Say that this is how it is in a LGBT relationship.

Pointing finger

Play on fears that no-one will help because someone ‘deserves’ the abuse.

Police officers

Play on the belief that agencies (like the Police) are either homo or biphobic.

Shocked woman

Say that the abuse is mutual, consensual or as an expression of masculinity of some other desirable behaviour.

Woman waving fingers

Say that abuse doesn’t happen in LGBT relationships.

Woman in a bubble

Cut off support to their partner by making out its them who is the problem to family, friends and the community, this can be a particular issue in areas where there are few resources for the LGBT community.

Women can also be abused by former heterosexual partners or by other family members; perhaps after they have come out and go into their first same-sex relationship. In some cases, abusers will use the process of “coming out” as an additional form of control. This can be particularly difficult where children are involved.

 

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